Friends and Memories

Friends is one of the best shows ever and I still watch the DVDs all the time. I remember watching many of the shows as they aired. As I was watching the episode from season 8 tonight, where we find out Ross is the father of Rachel’s baby, I was reminded of how I was working nights at O when this show aired. Todd (the other editor I worked with) and I would always talk about Friends on Friday mornings and he had seen the episode before me. I was so eager to know what happened, he acted out the whole episode for me. Even now when I watch it I am reminded of how I first heard those lines.

I also remember watching the season finale when Ross said Rachel’s name at his wedding to Emily. Christopher and I both gasped.

And I remember watching the entire last season with Manda and Chris talking at every commercial (mostly with Manda) about how we didn’t know what we were going to do with out Thursday nights from now on.

Who’s Your Friend at 2 a.m.?

Our 5 disk DVD player died about 4 months ago (but it still plays cd’s…hmm.) So the hubby and I bought a new DVD player. It worked fine at first, but now it seems to get moody about certain disks. At random points it will decide to get stuck between chapters and the screen will just go black.

So the other night we were watching an episode of “Friends” while we ate dinner. As the episode ended, it got hung up and the screen turned black. We really didn’t think much of it and just started clearing the table. My husband turned off the TV and we both decided to read for a while before going to bed.

Around 2 a.m. we were awoken by the voices of Monica and Rachel from the living room. The disk had randomly started again and the audio was playing though the amp. After a second of sleepy confusion, I stumbled out to the living room to turn everything off.

I wonder what kind of glitch makes the DVD player act up, then decide to fix itself 5 hours later.

Online vs IRL

I was thinking today about how the internet has changed our relationships with our friends. Today we found out that another of our favorite baristas (she’s the 5th) will be leaving our Starbucks. I had this odd panic, that these people are leaving and we’ll never see them again. Which lead me to examine the dichotomy…

Sometimes it seems as though our online friends (those who we communicate with primarily online) are closer to us than our IRL (in real life) friends. Just to clarify, those categories are not mutually exclusive. Online friends may live just down the street and we see them once a week at the market and IRL friends may live across the country and we talk to them on the phone.

What I am finding more and more, is that those of my friends and family that do not have an online presence (email, IM, blog, photo album, etc.) I know less about. I talk to them less, and I am not as involved what is going on in their life. Now granted, maybe they want it that way and that is fine with me. I understand wanting to be a private person. But the truth of it is that you and I will probably not be as close of friends if I have to call or visit to find out what is going on with you.

In this ever-increasingly hectic world, technology allows me communicate with 20 of my closest friends each and everyday, without requiring so much of my time that it hampers my productivity. This is key. It would take 2-3 weeks for me to share a meal with all of these folks. I do love spending time with people and sharing those interactions that can only happen in person, but we all have lives to lead and I don’t want to have to say, “No more friends. I just don’t have the time for them all.”

Just another paradigm shift.

25 years

A few friends showed up last weekend for an impromptu visit. Sometimes those are the best kind. We had a good time, talking laughing and eating (of course). Even though they were only in town for 24 hours it was very enjoyable. When I stopped to think about it, I realized that I’ve known 2 of these friends for 25 years and the other for 16 years. Of course, we have lost touch at different times, but it is amazing to look back over those years and see how much we have changed (or haven’t :). Anyway, I feel lucky.